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June 08 2015

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In honor of National Best Friend Day. 

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I’m so happy I got a new friend!

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nothingeverlost:

I talked to an eight year old little girl yesterday and admired her Thor shirt.  I asked her if Thor was her favorite Avenger.  She shook her head and said "we can’t find a Black Widow shirt.”

@ marvel : you pricks

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This drives me mad. I used to work in a bookstore, and was talking to my coworker and he just yelled out “stop flirting with me!” at this ridiculous volume and it was humiliating because 
1. I wasn’t
2. I got in trouble for acting unprofessional 
3. He embarrassed me in front of a line of people
4. And he only stopped insisting that I was flirting when my boyfriend (who is now my husband) said, “dude, trust me, she’s not flirting with you” to him

That asshole respected my BOYFRIEND saying I wasn’t flirting more than he respected me saying it and I was the one who was talking! The whole scene got me in trouble at work. And the most ridiculous part is we were talking about a fucking book. In a bookstore.

One time, my ex boyfriend had a crush on some girl, and said that he thought he might have “a chance” with her.

When I asked him what made him think that, he said “Well, she talks to me.”

And this is why it is so difficult to be a girl and be friends with men who are attracted to women.

Can we also add that this is why a lot of women do the resting bitch face when out in public. Cause dudes swear a glance or a smile is flirting.

So yesterday something that perfectly illustrates this happened. I work at a fast food place and this guy comes in at 7am on a Sunday, still probably drunk from the night before, and when I smiled and said goodmorning he said “Did you just say that because you’re being paid to say that?” 

I repressed my urge to sarcastically answer, and said “Nope, I just enjoy saying hi to everyone!” To which he responded, “Oh, so you weren’t flirting with me then.”

Dude, I’m not flirting with your gross 7am-on-a-Sunday-ass, trust me.

My defense mechanism when I’m uncomfortable at work is to smile, so I did that and said “Is there anything I can get you this morning?” to which he responded,

“There, you just smiled! What does that mean?”

At this point I was fed up, so I said, 

“I smile at everyone sir, its just what I do. What can I get you, coffee, a bagel?”

And he said “I’m gonna be watching to see if you smile at everyone. I don’t like it when girls lie to me” and then ordered a coffee and a muffin like he hadn’t just said something at 11 on the “Is this guy a serial rapist” scale (where 0 is ‘no’ and 10 is ‘Yes, run away as fast as you can right now.”).

Then he sat there for another hour and a half, staring at me from his table. When he got up and left he came back to the counter, and said “You do smile at everyone. That’s fucked up.” and walked out.

I can’t even be innocuously polite and pleasant to people at my job (where customer service is the number one thing we are supposed to be focusing on) for fear of this shit happening. What happens if he had decided to wait until my shift was over? 

New Rule: If she’s at work, SHE’S NOT FLIRTING WITH YOU.

Guys, stop bothering women while they’re working. You’re just being annoying. People have jobs to do that aren’t related to you, and the world doesn’t revolve around your fragile, desperate egos.

and please don’t ask us when we get off. It sends the creep alarm all the way off.

Here’s my story: I was in a bookstore as a customer, with my partner. I went to the counter to ask for a book and my partner trailed along behind me. The guy tells me where I can find it and as I walk away to get it he says to my partner “did you see that hot chick flirting with me, I’m gonna hit that later” to which my partner replied “that’s my fucking wife.”

Asking you to do your job is not flirting.

One time at work I found out that a male coworker thought I was “in love” with him. I literally just had conversations with him like I would with all my other coworkers. But no, apparently that meant I must be in love with him. I don’t understand why guys think that being civil is flirting?? Every time I have been friends with a guy there is always a point when they’ll either ask me “are you flirting with me?” or “do you have a crush on me??”. Why do you assume that just because I’m treating you like a human being then I MUST want to jump your bones. Your egos need to calm the fuck down tbh.

When I was a barista as Starbucks I constantly had guys taking drinks and giving me a creepy smile or asking if I made it special for them.

Trust me dude, your half-caf vanilla latte is no more special than the person behind you.

This is such a long post but YES. I got this for 10 years and retail. You’re trained to smile and be polite. You HAVE to or you get in trouble. The amount of dudes that have mistaken that for flirting… Boggles the mind.

DO NOT. CHAT UP. WOMEN. WHEN THEY’RE WORKING.

DO NOT.

DO. NOT.

because let me tell you something. best case scenario, you’re making her uncomfortable. worst case, you’re scaring the shit out of her.

I’ve been harassed and stalked so many times in my retail career it’s unreal. after the worst incident, I got special permission to wear a false nametag from then on.

I was stalked by a man I spoke to once. two sentences. I greeted him on entering the store and asked if he needed anything. he read my nametag and asked for my number. my male coworker tagged in and let me go stock the backroom until he left.
weird, but seemed harmless enough.
until he called the store every day to ask if I was working.
and asked repeatedly for my schedule, claiming to be my boyfriend. he happened to have the same first name as the guy I was seeing at the time.

thankfully, this had happened to enough women across the company that disclosing a coworkers schedule over the phone to anyone other than that coworker, even if it was one of their family members, was a fireable offense. so no one ever did it.
he kept at it for SIX. MONTHS.
I transferred to another store. he didn’t believe my coworkers when he was told that I didn’t work there anymore, including new hires who had never even met me and knew me only as ‘the girl who used to work here whose stalker won’t stop calling.’ he got hostile. came by and confronted my friend Dave, who had been my supervisor when we worked in the same location and who had been there during my first and only in-person contact with my stalker.
thankfully, Dave is a very good actor.
he told my stalker, tearfully, that I really had transferred to another store. in the city. and that a few days after starting at my new store, I was tragically hit by a bus while walking to work and had passed away.

the daily phone calls finally stopped after that.

I had to FAKE MY DEATH to get away from this fucker. who I had greeted once. because it was my job.

this happens to women in retail often enough that some national companies have guidelines on handing these situations right in the orientation handbook.

hell, our store even had a special ‘I need help but I can’t make a scene because I would be endangering myself’ code. SARA. Send Assistance Right Away. if someone on the sales floor asked a question about ‘sara’ (ex: ‘hey, is sara working today?’) that meant call security and get to that coworker ASAP.

she is being paid to be nice to you.

the only reason she isn’t calling you a creep and telling you to leave is that she is so dependent on her job that she’s weighing her options: is he more of a danger to me than my loss of income would be if I got fired for telling him off?

This one time while I was working at walmart a man came through my line and was MAJORLY flirting with me. I tried to keep conversation to a minimum because I was so scared. He was /at least/ double my age. Asked me when I got off, how old I was, and felt the need to tell me he was here for the weekend. I sent in an action code to get my manager to my register, but by the time she got there the man was gone. Then the very next night this man not only returned, but stood in my long line of family shoppers just to buy a handful of things from me again. As soon as I saw him I called for my manager. He then repeated his questioning. But luckily he didn’t get far and shut up as soon as my manager showed up. I had someone walk me to my car every single day for the rest of the week. I was seventeen.

I used to work at a diner in my small town. I was mopping behind the booths one slow Sunday, and these two older men (50s/60s) walk in and stand in front of the counter where people order. I could smell alcohol on one of them, and it was easy enough to figure out which one of them it was. The drunk man was rude, loud, and insanely sarcastic. He kept speaking to me in a condescending way, and I was glad when I got to go back to working and not talking to them. I was mopping and minding my own business, and this man continues to talk to me. He tells me I have have a nice body, that he likes my arms (?!), and that I should let my hair down. I politely told him that I couldn’t because I work with food, and he said, “Oh yeah! That’s right, I guess.” I was uncomfortable, so I went to the back behind the counter and hid. He came up to the counter three times, telling me that he wanted to take me out, and that he would pick me up one day that week. I told him that I have a boyfriend, which is true, but he kept persisting. He told me to break up with my boyfriend foe him. The cook had to tell him that I was only 17, and that he needed to go sit down or he would call the cops. The man said, “You don’t have to be such an asshole, I was just being nice.” If being nice means harassing a seventeen-year-old girl for over an hour, while she is obviously trying to work, someone needs their priorities checked.

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wtffundiefamilies:

transpondster:

The Duggars, in a nutshell.

All the while protecting the son and leaving it to the girls to not get themselves molested again.

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blackdenimjeans:

Omg im like legit crying

SHE IS SO CUTE!!!!

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Donate to her family! She is a 9 year old girl battling leukemia. Her family is struggling to pay for her medical bills and keeping her in a safe environment
http://supportourcasey.com

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Little Girl: Thank you for the lovely party.

Woman Offscreen: What’d you say?

Little Girl: Thank you for the lovely party for me.

Woman Offscreen: Thank you for the lovely party for you?

Little Girl: Yes. I love it! It’s been lovely.

A different Woman Offscreen: You are so sweet.

reblog if you think female rapists should get the same amount of jail time as male rapists

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thesunthief:

My friends just had their first child. He has been diagnosed with Lissencephaly which is a rare and incurable neurological disorder.

I don’t ask much of my followers. But I am stopping you right now and asking you to AT LEAST reblog this. 

Jaxon’s parents are good people who have very little money. I know we’re all strapped for cash, but like I said, if you can’t donate, please AT LEAST REBLOG this. 

http://www.gofundme.com/eld1og

Because if you’re the type of person who is afraid of losing followers by posting a fundraiser for a baby, then damn, you need to rethink your life a little. 

Once more, AT LEAST REBLOG.

Gracias. 

June 07 2015

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Blonde symbolises sexuality and power - it holds very different connotations. The archetypal star has always been blonde

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“And here it is! The 37-year wait is over! American Pharoah is finally the one! American Pharoah has won The Triple Crown!”

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mj513:

Downtown ~ DΔllΔs, TX

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maggie-stiefvater:

manibus. for your hands.

this is not precisely how it goes down in book 4 but this is too incredibly nice to not reblog

OH MY GOD, A CONFESSION ^^^^^

nepberry:

i never see posts like this so let’s go!

support people whose compulsions lead to them having ‘ugly’ hands because they pick at their skin, wash their hands to the point the skin wears down, or cleans constantly

support people who have marks/scars from picking/pulling hairs, whether it’s a conscious compulsion or just something they do without noticing

support people whose strict adherence to rituals that have to do with hygiene or ‘neurotypical’ functions leads to people telling them that they’re faking their illness and neurodivergence

support people whose spoons are all spent on rituals before they can even begin to prioritize the rest of their day

I have literally been picking off the skin on the outside of my thumbs since I was 8. People are like, “Just quit, it’s bad for you.” I can’t. I don’t even realize I’m doing it half the time.

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